Breadwinners whut?

If you want a surreal experience, do this:

Photo credit:  Corbis images

Photo credit: Corbis images

Then find one of these:

Then sit down and watch this Fox panel on how women earning more money than men is destroying America…

 

I know this aired a few days ago, but I’m still thinking about it because really? What rock have those guys been under?

Women have been successful in the work place for a long time. Welcome to the show.

But also?

Women still make less than men for the same responsibilities and job titles.

We still do the majority of the household chores, and most of us manage the household finances as well.

We still do the majority of child-rearing duties, particularly in the early years.

When there’s a school play or other event that requires a parent to be present, it’s usually the mom that appears.

We manage the majority of all holidays, gift-giving, social calendars, family vacations, correspondence, and taking care of the sick and elderly in our families.

It’s also suggested that we look like Victoria’s Secret models, cook like Rachel Ray, and entertain like Martha Stewart all while being sexually insatiable.

Could it be possible that the All-American family is suffering a little bit because women are exhausted from straddling the fence between 1950 and 2013?

Our gender roles have been painfully under construction for the last 60 years. Does it really make sense to blame mothers who earn more than fathers for the destruction of marriage, family, and ultimately the demise of our entire nation?

Likewise, who gets to declare all that gloom and doom is even happening? Isn’t it possible that marriage, family, and our nation are just evolving, and it’s not the end of the world?

Society has been changing since the beginning of time, and will continue to change until the end of it. In my opinion, there are only two ways to handle that: fear and blame, or embrace and celebrate.

I choose to embrace and celebrate.

I’m glad I have a career that allows me to be independent. I’m glad my gay friends can get married in some states and I hope our whole nation follows. I’m glad my family is blended but not broken. And even though it’s not always easy, I’m glad I have the dual role of breadwinner and mom. I’m thankful to have the opportunity to strive for the best of both worlds.

Regardless of what each family looks like on the outside, or who earns more than whom, it’s still a family, and that means you’re on the same side.

I hope that never changes.

Comments

  1. Somebody should tell that Fox-Guy, it is 2013 out there – not 1880. Women may vote, they may earn money, they may even *shocking news, I know,dear Fox-men* WEAR SHORT HAIR AND JEANS – instead of a skirt and long hair. The constitution of the United States of America gives women all these liberties … The US are NOT AFGHANISTAN! Most men I know embrace that fact generously.

  2. Miss Molly says:

    BRAVA! And yes, I’m shouting that!

  3. I’m glad that I can be both bitter, lazy and a wife that doesn’t kick me out for either.

  4. AMEN.

  5. God made man first because you always make a rough draft before making a masterpiece.

  6. That video really was hilarious. It’s one of those things you watch and think to yourself “really? you people still exist??” Who watches that crap anyway?

    I think I’m getting shafted a bit since I make more than my wife (who does work hard) and I cook almost all the meals and I handle the finances! WTF?!

  7. Beautifully said, as always!

  8. I was just introduced to your blog and love it! I was also outraged when I saw this debate on Fox…or when it was brought to my attention, since I don’t regularly watch Fox. Especially since my blog focuses on careers…and I’ve met a lot of successful women through it! Truth be told, when I graduated college, my female friends conquered the job hunt much faster than their boyfriends. But I agree with your statement here:

    “Regardless of what each family looks like on the outside, or who earns more than whom, it’s still a family, and that means you’re on the same side.”.

  9. Reblogged this on Philip Shea and commented:
    Who is this guy?

  10. Good grief, I would love some woman to keep me in the style I would like to be accustomed to..

  11. Sigh. What decade are these people in? What reality are they living in? I just can’t believe there are people that are this clueless. I never watch Fox “News” – now, I know why? Great post.

  12. Wow Molly great post. My wife is just now going back to work but she does all that stuff you mentioned. Thanks for this

    Tom

  13. montaigne jones says:

    I’m on the road today, could you file this for me? Yeah it goes under #NiggaPlease: “We still do the majority of the household chores, and most of us manage the household finances as well. We still do the majority of child-rearing duties, particularly in the early years. When there’s a school play or other event that requires a parent to be present, it’s usually the mom that appears.We manage the majority of all holidays…”

    • Hahaha – I’m not sure what this means. You think I’m cray, or you think it’s cray bc this is true? Why are you on the road? Are you in a parade riding on a fabulous float today? If so we want photos please : )

      • montaigne jones says:

        I was feeling personally put upon this week. So when I read your “Women do X,Y & Z” I ignored that you were talking about society in general and threw my self a pity party, “Not in my world they don’t” …Surely you know what “Nigga Please” means, right? It’s perhaps the greatest scoff of all time. “We’ have to be careful when we use it, but I;m pretty sure we’re allowed to use it with each other. and re parades: I don’t live in New Orleans anymore. As a matter of fact i just had to tell Patrick we weren’t going to Mardi Gras this year, I thought he was going to cry. I was going to tell him after school, but he asked at breakfast. I’m just nailing this father son breakfast thing.

      • Oh okay gotcha. Yes some dudes do a lot. My hat is off to all of you : ) Why no Mardi Gras this year?

  14. montaigne jones says:

    I’m in trial that week.

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